How to Start Enjoying Time Alone By Women Who Love Their Own Company

There’s a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. For many women, silence can feel uncomfortable at first. We’re used to noise. Conversation. Notifications. Being needed. But the women who genuinely enjoy their own company move differently. They don’t fear stillness. They use it. They build strength in it. We asked four accomplished women what solitude looks like in their real lives — and what they would say to someone who struggles with it. Here’s what they shared.

Michelle Watare

Social Media & Marketing Manager at Healthy U Slowing Down to Come Home to Yourself Michelle works in a fast-moving, always-on environment. Yet for her, solitude is deliberate. “I genuinely enjoy spending time alone because it allows me to slow down and reconnect with myself. I love reading, journaling, and even enjoying a meal or drink alone — those moments help me better understand my thoughts and feel comfortable in my own skin.” Her advice for someone who struggles with being alone? “Start small — a solo walk, watching a movie alone, or having a quiet moment to yourself. Baby steps really matter, because at the end of the day, we all have to come home to ourselves.” You live with yourself for a lifetime. Build that relationship.

Valentine Wambui

New Product Development Lead at Healthy U

Nature as Reset, Silence as Power

Valentine doesn’t stumble into solitude — she schedules it. “I take myself on solo dates quite often, and they almost always involve nature. If it’s not a forest — Karura or the Aberdare — it’s a place with water. The beach is a non-negotiable annual reset. Nature, for me, is deeply grounding and spiritual. There’s a quiet power in it that helps me reconnect with myself.” She does something many of us avoid: “During these moments, I intentionally stay off my phone so I can be fully present with my thoughts and surroundings.” What has time alone taught her? “Serenity is where I truly recharge. Silence gives me space to reflect and gain clarity. Stepping away from the constant buzz of the world has helped me realise how valuable stillness is — not just for rest, but for perspective.”

Jane Maina

Retail Operations Coordinating Officer at Healthy U Rituals That Heal Jane describes her alone time as therapeutic — a personal reset. “I enjoy long, warm morning baths and learning DIY home décor ideas online.” There’s something powerful about creating moments that belong only to you — no expectations, no performance. And when asked what she would say to a woman who feels restless when alone, she responds with honesty: “Embrace the moment. It allows time to heal from within and better understand personal boundaries.” Solitude reveals where you overextend. Where you need clarity. Where you need healing. That awareness is strength.

Tebby Maritim

Healthy U Ambassador

Reclaiming Space — Even in Motherhood

Tebby finds her solitude in unexpected windows of time. “Work trips, actually. The evenings or mornings when I have free time and can explore a city without needing to worry about anything.” Her advice is bold in its simplicity: “Take a short drive with no music on and just enjoy your own company.”

What These Women Have in Common

They protect time alone. They start small. They remove distractions. They move through discomfort. They use solitude to reset, reflect and realign. Time alone is not selfish. It is strengthening. When you enjoy your own company:

• You stop chasing constant validation.
• You choose relationships instead of clinging to them.
• You build boundaries.
• You build clarity.
• You build confidence.

If Being Alone Feels Uncomfortable

Don’t overhaul your life. Start with one intentional moment this week — not to scroll, not to multitask, just to be.

• A walk.
• A bath.
• A quiet coffee.
• A short drive.
• Time in nature.

Stay with the discomfort long enough to understand it. Solitude isn’t about withdrawing from the world. It’s about strengthening the woman who walks back into it.